Fucking Introduction

For the high majority of gay men, what we do with our dicks defines us and - love it or loathe it - fucking is inextricably linked with that. However, there is an assumption by many gay men that all gay men fuck and it's the sexual practice around which everything revolves. Even if it's true it doesn't mean you have to fuck or made to feel there is something wrong if you don't. There are guys have never tried it and really don't care if they don't, and some guys who have tried it and don't like doing it. There are those who think it's overrated or just feel that the risk of HIV is too great. Not fucking doesn't mean that you can't or don't have a fabulous sex life. So, ask yourself the question: do you really want to fuck? If you're getting fucked you get the pleasure of getting your arse massaged from the inside and your prostate gland taken on an all-expenses-paid holiday to the destination of your choice. If you're fucking - you get to have your cock rubbed and massaged into heavenly oblivion. We can change roles and start again. Not bad really. It is emotional and we can be overwhelmed. It brings us together and we can feel as one. It allows us to dominate and to submit. It releases us and tells us who we are. It can be some of these things, all of them or something else. Even better. Oh, I thought you wanted to fuck me... If you're fucking with a new partner it may be sensible to agree who's doing what. Some guys use hanky codes and keys as a clue to what they want, but they're not always accurate. Some of us can be upfront and ask; others, particularly if they're versatile, will simply go with the flow. Granted, there is something to be said for not asking 'who's going to do what?' on the way home - it can seem planned, predictable, and tacky. Equally, if you only want to fuck or get fucked and your partner wants likewise then you either have some serious negotiation to do or you may as well put the kettle on. This online advice guide is an extract from the book TOGETHER, by kind permission of Patriic Gayle and Gay Times Books. The book itself is over 300 pages long and contains:

several chapters more useful advice and information

more in-depth information in some chapters

more pictures and tables

further contacts at the end of each chapter

a comprehensive listing of gay and health organisations Described by Qx magazine as a 'Gay Bible', Together Book is a practical reference work no bookshelf should be without.

Available from Prowler Stores and all good bookshops, or click the link below for price and ordering details. ver our fingers when we put them up our own arse but they should be washed thoroughly if they are then going up anybody else's. The same applies if you finger someone else first and then want to finger yourself. Alternatively you can use a finger-cot (a condom for your finger) with a new cot used on each partner. You may only be able to obtain these from sexual health clinics and chemists. If you are using condoms, your cock should only go up one arse with each condom. If there's more than one arse on offer, use a fresh condom. Similarly, if you're using gloves a new glove should be used with each partner. The same applies to dildos and toys. Getting into the habit of always using a condom on a dildo (whether you're by yourself or not) will also give you repeated opportunities to practise putting on and taking off condoms. Irritants like soaps and laxatives cause diarrhoea, and their long-term use will damage your arse. Blood, cum, and shit may be infected with HIV and other sexually transmitted infections like hepatitis, gonorrhoea, syphilis and herpes. This online advice guide is an extract from the book TOGETHER, by kind permission of Patriic Gayle and Gay Times Books. The book itself is over 300 pages long and contains:

several chapters more useful advice and information

more in-depth information in some chapters

more pictures and tables

further contacts at the end of each chapter

a comprehensive listing of gay and health organisations Described by Qx magazine as a 'Gay Bible', Together Book is a practical reference work no bookshelf should be without.

Available from Prowler Stores and all good bookshops, or click the link below for price and ordering details.

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